I always knew that moving to a new home in a new part of the city would be a transition. I knew that it would be a transition for me and for the kids, however, I didn’t realize just how much of a transition it would be. During the whole house searching phase, in the back of my mind I knew that the kids would probably take it a little hard leaving their childhood home and backyard basketball rim. When we finally found our new home in the heart of the city, I knew that the kids would miss seeing their next door friends who would enter through our side gate and walk right into our house. When we moved in, I knew that the kids would need to see that there were parks near our new home and plenty of kids on our new block. What I did NOT take into account was the affect this transition would have on me! The wear and tear and the lessons that would come from it. Over the past weeks, I’ve learned 3 Important Tips for Moving With Kids. Tips that will affect them directly and indirectly, but that will have a huge impact on the way your entire family experience the start of this new season in your lives.
The New Place
I’d been so concerned about how the children would respond to this new move that I didn’t allow the space for my own processing. Our new home is beautiful, on a picturesque street, and filled with friendly neighbors but… it’s still new. It’s very different from our old home in space and age, with most of it’s decorative wood finishes dating back 200 years or more. 12 foot ceilings and 10ft windows that welcome in light from the early morning dawn to the last glimmer of dust. Another difference is in the space. Older homes usually mean great design features but smaller rooms. Not a big deal and definitely no reason to complain (this is not complaining), it’s just different. New. How to say goodbye to a home that I’ve lived in for almost eight years? A place that was the only home I’ve ever lived in. Like ever. Yet, as life and seasons change, so must we. And that’s just what we did.
Where am I now after having finished a full week of living in our new home?
Making my way. I’ve had a couple silent melt downs after being confronted with yet another box that needed to be emptied. Got a little discouraged at needing groceries and having no clue as to where there nearest store was. Completely overwhelmed when my 3 year old got strep throat (probably a present from a friend!) and wanted to be held for two days straight. And definitely worn out when my two older children both spiked over 102 degree fevers at the same time (thanks to little brother!). Yet, I also experienced gratefulness when I looked out at my clean and organized living and dining room – let’s not talk about the other rooms yet. lol! I felt comfort laying on couch and watching a movie with my hubby after the kids had gone to sleep. And I felt excitement at knowing that our new location will allow my husband to arrive home a whole hour earlier than before! Give and take. Step by step. Breathe, feel, and then find something to be grateful for. That’s where I am.
What I’ve Learned and Tips to Share
I don’t know if moving is ever an easy feat. Whether you’re moving from one floor to the another (we’ve done this before), moving to another city, state, or country. Moving is hard! Yet there are ways that you can make this time go as smooth as possible… especially when you have little people in tow.
3 Important Tips for Moving With Kids
1. Pack Ahead of time!
Don’t wait until the week of to start packing. You may think, “There’s seven days in a week, surely that’ll be enough time.” It’s not! Start packing two or three weeks ahead of your move date. Depending on the size of the home, you may even need a little more time. Something that I found helpful was to go room by room and figure out what needed to be donated or thrown out. This way, after all of those things were removed, I knew everything that was left was going with us to our new home. This goes for the bathroom cabinets and even the pantry! You’d be surprised at what expired “gems” you’ll find all the way in the back corners.
Boxing up out-of-season clothing, bedding, and anything else that you won’t need for a while will help with your early packing, too. Then as you get even closer to moving day, maybe a week before, pull out outfits and items you’ll need for that week and box everything else up. It may sound like a lot of work (and it is), but spreading it out and packing ahead of time will help balance getting ready for your move and taking care of the everyday demands that are sure to continue.
2. Get Help!
You ARE Superwomen! You ARE Supermen! However, even superheroes need help from time to time and believe me, moving is one of those times! ha! There are numerous ways you can get help with your move. You can gather a group of your most awesome friends to come help with cleaning, packing, loading, moving, and/or unloading. Hire a moving company to take your packed boxes and furniture to your new location. Or Hire a moving company to do it all! There are companies who will pack up your entire house, take it to your new home, and unpack everything for you! Crazy, right? Definitely a price difference between this and ordering a couple of “thank you” pizzas for your friends, but it’s still an option.
Another way that you can ask for help is with childcare. Be sure to reach out to family members, close friends, or neighbors that you trust and ask if you’re kids can hang out with them for the day or overnight. Having time to direct all the movers and unpack some boxes without breaking up fights or answering the same question 20 times in a row is so worth it!
3. Give Grace
As I mentioned in the beginning of this post, moving is a transition and transitions can be difficult for both children and parents. Give each other grace. Give grace your child as they jump with joy about your move one minute and are clinging to you in tears that they will miss their old room in the next. Give grace to yourself when you realize that your living space will be different or that you will have to find a new grocery store, community center, sport camps for your kids, and group of friends for yourself. Moving = growing. Internally and externally and, although exciting, it
may will time to find your “familiar.” (Totally preaching to the choir on this one!) So, before the big day arrives, start the conversation and let grace be a BIG part of it.
Ahh, moving. It’s like a huge piñata covered in bright cheery colors. Enticing and yet filled with so many different emotions and experiences. Nevertheless, it’s another family adventure and one worth taking. So, grab a stick and break open that box because it’s time to move!
Did you find these 3 Important Tips for Moving With Kids helpful? Let me know in the comments below.